Commitment Phobia

Treatment for Commitment Phobia.

Commitment phobia is the fear and avoidance of having to commit to anything, but especially relationships.

Symptoms of commitment phobia

Commitment phobia can express itself in all kinds of different ways, but typically sufferers may exhibit any of these:

• Being overly critical of the other partner in the relationship, and/or the relationship as a whole.
• Annoying / hurting the other person, thus sabotaging the relationship, even if it's considered to be working well. An example of this, might be consistently turning up late for things - whether with apologetic excuses, or not.
• Being scared of getting noticed, because the other person might want to start a relationship. In fact, they'll often reject other people from the word go, so that a relationship barely gets off the starting blocks. The feeling behind this, can be to protect themselves from even the prospect of allowing others' to get too close. 
  
  At the other end of the scale, a commitment phobic, may be flirtatious and appear to want the attentions of other interested parties, desiring even a longer-term physical relationship. But, eventually the fear can, and often does, win out and the other person gets pushed away, leaving broken hearts in its wake.
• Fearing being swamped by others, and thus losing sight of who they feel they really are.
• Unable to face or explore the prospects, issues, or thoughts, of living together, or getting married.Some commitment phobics may want to find Mr or Miss Right and get married, but will often have somewhat unrealistic 'ideals' over possible suitors. 
• Often friends and relatives notice and will often make comments like: 'you're being too picky', and 'Mr/Miss Perfect' just doesn't exist'.
• Sometimes they'll fall in love with other people who just aren't interested in forming an intimate relationship. The reasoning behind this can be that the commitment phobic has, (deliberately, or otherwise), chosen a person who can't/won't, form a lasting relationship, and so they are 'safe' from having to make that long-term commitment.
• There is also the type of sufferer who enters a relationship, can't commit, then leaves at some point, only to return sometime later, before leaving yet again. This yo-yoing can happen time and time again leaving hurt, bewilderment and distrust in its wake.
• There can be the avoidance of having to commit to anything. This can also involve jobs, tasks, timekeeping, as well as personal relationships / friendships. Interestingly, it can even involve undertaking treatment for the commitment phobia itself.

Commitment Phobia CAN Be Helped!

Commitment phobia responds REALLY well to one particular type of hypnotherapy, known as Pure Hypnoanalysis, as well as a technique calledChanging Limiting Beliefs.

Pure Hypnoanalysis

Pure Hypnoanalysis has helped countless people over the years. The aim of Pure Hypnoanalysis is not to 'control', or 'manage' the problem, the aim is to resolve it completely.

To find out more about how Pure Hypnoanalysis could help you, you can come along and meet with one of us at our North London, North Cambridgeshireor Essex practices for an initial consultation, and we can have a chat about the problems you're having. It's easy to book and very informal!

Changing Limiting Beliefs

Changing Limiting Beliefs is a short training course, which usually takes 6 hours, and can help you to completely change the way you feel about yourself, about things that you do, and those things that happen around you.

You’ll learn how the astonishing power of the unconscious mind affects almost everything that you do in your day to day life.

Read more about Changing Limiting Beliefs

“ Dear Paul and Denise, 

I just wanted to say THANK YOU VERY, VERY MUCH for being so incredibly patient, understanding, helpful, lovely, trustworthy and genuinely nice during the last few months and, most of all, for bringing those AMAZING changes into my life.

I had hoped for some improvement when I came to see you the first time, but I never ever imagined that so many things would be sorted out and that I would feel that much better -- not just about relationships but about myself in general.

It was another failed relationship that made me go and get professional help, not being entirely convinced that there was much I could do about my pattern -- which was always ending up with the wrong guy. But rather than waiting for Mr. Right, I thought it was better to do something about it. And I am so glad I did! My views, opinions and feelings have completely changed.

Along the line, my fear of seeing others being sick and the fear of being sick myself somehow disappeared and I would have never believed before that this could be cured. And guess what? I saw "The Last King of Scotland" on Saturday and there is a scene where the guy vomits and it did not bother me at all. I was so happy that your magic had worked that I actually enjoyed watching it. Spooky!

I really did enjoy the sessions -- with both of you -- they were good fun and you made me laugh so many times -- and they were definitely the most interesting thing I have experienced in my life so far. 

I will never forget you and what you did for me - Thank you so, so much!

All the best, take care and see you soon,

Kerstin “

(an emetophobia and commitment phobia client from London)
(First name used with permission)

“Thank you so so much for all your help with everything....my commitment phobia is well and truely gone.....and i will never forget you for that....you and Denise were amazing.. 

I would recommend the treatment and of course you and Denise to anyone and everyone who needs a little help getting back on track.. I think its taken so long to get back to you because i have almost forgotten what it was like to have commitment phobia, there is hope out there for people suffering from it....i never thought i would get through it.....and used to come home crying a couple of times a week because it was so bad.... 

I wanted to thank you both for being so kind, thoughtful, supportive and wonderful, i will and have recommended you to people...i felt so comfortable talking to you about all sorts of things, like i'd known you for years... 

i want other people to know that commitment phobia can be overcome.... i have read threads on websites where people have commitment phobia and they are going mad and think that there is no cure or no way of over coming it.....i thought that too....before i met you and Denise...

Chloe S”


...a commitment phobia client from London
(Full name used with permission)

 

 

Paul Douglass

Avon Hypnotherapy

 

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